What About Those Cosmo Girls? She stands alone, away from all the chitter chatter on the scattered bus stop. She holds her binder tight in her arms and her distance is ignored. Who is she. She’s just a girl.   High school was a pretty interesting place. New people, new environment, the ultimate introduction to the ‘a whole new world’. I remember the first day and exactly what I wore; a tan shirt with glamorous written across the front, a jean knee length skirt and tan shoes. My sister tried to map out the areas of the school for me, but after walking through those door alone, I was back at square one. My area of choice was Cosmetology, but the school encouraged rotations, just to get a feel of each area of study.   Culinary Arts was a disaster, my snickerdoodle cookies minus the cinnamon to my surprise creates biscuits. Not so good biscuits, I must say. But it wasn’t until I stepped into the doors of Cosmetology that all was well in the world. Well, scratch that not initially. We were the ‘newbees’ the freshman so it was intimidating, but after a few months a bond was born.   I have to fast forward to Junior year because it held all of the significant highlights of being in a class with these young women for three straight hours. It was honestly like a dorm, we ate, we talked, laughed, cried, danced, practiced and lived in that class. It was one of the best years of high school. I can’t tell you in a nutshell how each and every person in that class contributed to the Cosmo Girl’s bond.   There were so many personalities in that one room, I swear we should have all killed each other and in some cases we almost did. But the uncontrollable laughs, the stepping by the shampoo bowl, the secret meetings in the locker room and dryer area are the things I miss the most. How could I forget the screeching, ‘LADIES!’ by the best mother/teacher/friend a girl could have! I found not only my identity through those girls, but a true friendship. I was no longer that girl standing alone, gripping my binder tight. I was a Cosmo Girl.  

What About Those Cosmo Girls?

She stands alone, away from all the chitter chatter on the scattered bus stop. She holds her binder tight in her arms and her distance is ignored. Who is she. She’s just a girl.

 

High school was a pretty interesting place. New people, new environment, the ultimate introduction to the ‘a whole new world’. I remember the first day and exactly what I wore; a tan shirt with glamorous written across the front, a jean knee length skirt and tan shoes. My sister tried to map out the areas of the school for me, but after walking through those door alone, I was back at square one. My area of choice was Cosmetology, but the school encouraged rotations, just to get a feel of each area of study.

 

Culinary Arts was a disaster, my snickerdoodle cookies minus the cinnamon to my surprise creates biscuits. Not so good biscuits, I must say. But it wasn’t until I stepped into the doors of Cosmetology that all was well in the world. Well, scratch that not initially. We were the ‘newbees’ the freshman so it was intimidating, but after a few months a bond was born.

 

I have to fast forward to Junior year because it held all of the significant highlights of being in a class with these young women for three straight hours. It was honestly like a dorm, we ate, we talked, laughed, cried, danced, practiced and lived in that class. It was one of the best years of high school. I can’t tell you in a nutshell how each and every person in that class contributed to the Cosmo Girl’s bond.

 

There were so many personalities in that one room, I swear we should have all killed each other and in some cases we almost did. But the uncontrollable laughs, the stepping by the shampoo bowl, the secret meetings in the locker room and dryer area are the things I miss the most. How could I forget the screeching, ‘LADIES!’ by the best mother/teacher/friend a girl could have!


I found not only my identity through those girls, but a true friendship. I was no longer that girl standing alone, gripping my binder tight. I was a Cosmo Girl.  

On the Outside Looking In: The Horseshoe Casino It’s something about overhearing a conversation that makes your day, in my case it was my night. The Horseshoe Casino experience, where shall I start? Well first off shame in my tardiness which landed me in one of the longest, slow-moving lines in the universe. But the ultimate bonus happened standing in front of a five conversational guys. What music to my ears to hear males bonding and sharing the goods…LOL. The absolute funniest lines that I have to share with you were. "She liked five of my pics on Instagram…she’s my girlfriend…she just don’t know it" "This THOT told me she couldn’t give me her number because she only puts her number in iPhones." Internally I was crying real tears, but a quiet bystander worked best in this type of unbalanced gender role. I was surely outnumbered and on that note anything could have been said. So careful not to put myself in an uncomfortable situation I kept my back to the entertainment and took notes. Men are hilarious! On to the next sighting. And I must say this is a pretty sensitive one ‘the race card’. So here I am standing in line watching an Asian family walk past all the impatient bystanders trying to get into this casino. No shade, but they did look clueless. So here comes a black woman, older lady running up to them screaming out, ‘Do you not see this line? To the back, to the back. Do you understand what I’m saying.’ The man could only respond with pointing and saying ‘line’. It was a hopeless case of not only trying to pinpoint rutting the line, but clearly taking advantage of the fact that they were foreign to what was going on. I just feel in some cases, certain people take advantage of the next minority with no hesitation. But when it comes to us black folk, we want justice. NOT COOL. So entering the Casino after hours of outside entertainment, I went in to see a fabulous establishment. The chandeliers were countless, a bit much I would say, but very extravagant nonetheless. At no surprise to me I lost all of my gambling money and decided to be a watchful eye and soak in the experience. I walked both floors and the most appealing incident or sighting i must say was a young male winning $1000 and obnixously flagging down an attendant. Horseshoe was nice, but the hype is all the same. Gravitating to a new shiny penny doesn’t make it anymore than one cent. Until next time, I’m out.

On the Outside Looking In: The Horseshoe Casino

It’s something about overhearing a conversation that makes your day, in my case it was my night.

The Horseshoe Casino experience, where shall I start? Well first off shame in my tardiness which landed me in one of the longest, slow-moving lines in the universe. But the ultimate bonus happened standing in front of a five conversational guys. What music to my ears to hear males bonding and sharing the goods…LOL. The absolute funniest lines that I have to share with you were.

"She liked five of my pics on Instagram…she’s my girlfriend…she just don’t know it"

"This THOT told me she couldn’t give me her number because she only puts her number in iPhones."

Internally I was crying real tears, but a quiet bystander worked best in this type of unbalanced gender role. I was surely outnumbered and on that note anything could have been said. So careful not to put myself in an uncomfortable situation I kept my back to the entertainment and took notes. Men are hilarious!

On to the next sighting. And I must say this is a pretty sensitive one ‘the race card’. So here I am standing in line watching an Asian family walk past all the impatient bystanders trying to get into this casino. No shade, but they did look clueless. So here comes a black woman, older lady running up to them screaming out, ‘Do you not see this line? To the back, to the back. Do you understand what I’m saying.’ The man could only respond with pointing and saying ‘line’. It was a hopeless case of not only trying to pinpoint rutting the line, but clearly taking advantage of the fact that they were foreign to what was going on. I just feel in some cases, certain people take advantage of the next minority with no hesitation. But when it comes to us black folk, we want justice. NOT COOL.

So entering the Casino after hours of outside entertainment, I went in to see a fabulous establishment. The chandeliers were countless, a bit much I would say, but very extravagant nonetheless. At no surprise to me I lost all of my gambling money and decided to be a watchful eye and soak in the experience.

I walked both floors and the most appealing incident or sighting i must say was a young male winning $1000 and obnixously flagging down an attendant. Horseshoe was nice, but the hype is all the same. Gravitating to a new shiny penny doesn’t make it anymore than one cent.

Until next time, I’m out.

The Love Cycle The Love Cycle sheds a light on the struggle to find truth and understanding in love and relationships; from tender romance to doubts, fears, and trust issues. It seeks to illustrate the cycle of love as a revolving door. Lessons of the heart both pleasurable and painful are a part of life’s purpose to build strength and mold character. The Love Cycle expects readers to gain insight and advice to overcome thought-provoking situations; which in due course brings about awareness to this fixation we call love.

The Love Cycle

The Love Cycle sheds a light on the struggle to find truth and understanding in love and relationships; from tender romance to doubts, fears, and trust issues. It seeks to illustrate the cycle of love as a revolving door. Lessons of the heart both pleasurable and painful are a part of life’s purpose to build strength and mold character. The Love Cycle expects readers to gain insight and advice to overcome thought-provoking situations; which in due course brings about awareness to this fixation we call love.

Recap: Opposites Attract: When one completes the other There is no recipe for the journey to finding one’s mate. When that package comes signed, sealed, and delivered, it’s yours. And without any doubt or worry it is embraced with your acceptance; regardless of the contents marinating inside of the box. Although common interests help set a mutual ground for the relationship, there is a catch that ultimately draws an individual in. A successful relationship feeds off of balance and structure, with each individual serving as a compliment to the other. The complication of being with someone the total opposite of you can be overwhelming at times. The difference in cleanliness, opinions, social interaction, and overall habits are the root to many disagreements. But when the smoke clears, for some reason the relationship is still standing. Why? How? Here’s the theory, we are all naturally attracted to someone who is different from our norms due to the excitement and the developing sense of completion. We are drawn to an individual’s strengths that we in some way lack. This natural attraction of our opposites is a subconscious way of forcing us to deal with the weaker aspects of our own nature. Although the relationship can become testy and you find yourself driving your partner up a wall; pleading with them to change their habits, you indirectly love it. Think about it. Compromise would play no role if you lived in a perfect little world with no complaints or criticisms. A healthy relationship endures all and in the end conquers all. We will probably never quite grasp the concept of an opposite attracting or our strong-liking to it. Being the puppets of nature, we act on our instincts with the heart following suit. -“Just because a man and a woman sleep in the same bed doesn’t mean they have the same dreams”

Recap: Opposites Attract: When one completes the other

There is no recipe for the journey to finding one’s mate. When that package comes signed, sealed, and delivered, it’s yours. And without any doubt or worry it is embraced with your acceptance; regardless of the contents marinating inside of the box. Although common interests help set a mutual ground for the relationship, there is a catch that ultimately draws an individual in. A successful relationship feeds off of balance and structure, with each individual serving as a compliment to the other. The complication of being with someone the total opposite of you can be overwhelming at times. The difference in cleanliness, opinions, social interaction, and overall habits are the root to many disagreements. But when the smoke clears, for some reason the relationship is still standing. Why? How?

Here’s the theory, we are all naturally attracted to someone who is different from our norms due to the excitement and the developing sense of completion. We are drawn to an individual’s strengths that we in some way lack. This natural attraction of our opposites is a subconscious way of forcing us to deal with the weaker aspects of our own nature.

Although the relationship can become testy and you find yourself driving your partner up a wall; pleading with them to change their habits, you indirectly love it. Think about it. Compromise would play no role if you lived in a perfect little world with no complaints or criticisms. A healthy relationship endures all and in the end conquers all. We will probably never quite grasp the concept of an opposite attracting or our strong-liking to it. Being the puppets of nature, we act on our instincts with the heart following suit.

-“Just because a man and a woman sleep in the same bed doesn’t mean they have the same dreams”

Recap: The First Date Jitters Envision two individuals sitting at the table enjoying dinner, sharing thoughts about one another, laughing and joking; just having a decent time. Then comes that moment of silence; and before formal invitation awkwardness has decided to pull up a chair and join the party of two. In some cases nerves come into play, the feeling when you try to listen to every word you are saying to make sure it makes sense. This method of conversing can be quite difficult to control when you are face to face with someone of interest. An individual can get so caught up in trying to portray what they ‘are not’ in setting a good impression that they begin to lose sight of ‘who they are’. Worst case scenario, the date can go downhill from there; which in a positive aspect, that’s one down and more to go. First dates can be very tricky; especially if you have been anticipating time with the person due to curiosity, crush, or a simple attraction. And as a result, thoughts start drifting into long-term. There lies the problem. A first date is not the place for drafting Mr. or Mrs. Right. Trust when or if love decides to approach the situation, that seat of awkwardness would cease to exist. In all seriousness, give love and long-term a break. Live in the moment and trust your instincts. “A date is simply an opportunity to spend time with someone new and see if there’s potential for more. A first date is all about possibility, not pressure” -Andrea Syrtash, dating and relationship expert

Recap: The First Date Jitters

Envision two individuals sitting at the table enjoying dinner, sharing thoughts about one another, laughing and joking; just having a decent time. Then comes that moment of silence; and before formal invitation awkwardness has decided to pull up a chair and join the party of two. In some cases nerves come into play, the feeling when you try to listen to every word you are saying to make sure it makes sense. This method of conversing can be quite difficult to control when you are face to face with someone of interest. An individual can get so caught up in trying to portray what they ‘are not’ in setting a good impression that they begin to lose sight of ‘who they are’. Worst case scenario, the date can go downhill from there; which in a positive aspect, that’s one down and more to go.

First dates can be very tricky; especially if you have been anticipating time with the person due to curiosity, crush, or a simple attraction. And as a result, thoughts start drifting into long-term. There lies the problem. A first date is not the place for drafting Mr. or Mrs. Right. Trust when or if love decides to approach the situation, that seat of awkwardness would cease to exist. In all seriousness, give love and long-term a break. Live in the moment and trust your instincts.

“A date is simply an opportunity to spend time with someone new and see if there’s potential for more. A first date is all about possibility, not pressure”

-Andrea Syrtash, dating and relationship expert

Recap: Rekindling the Flame: It’s Never Too Late There are a growing number of relationships, who lose touch of that spark, from the spontaneous nights to the memorable mornings. The excitement of just knowing that person is within arm’s reach at all times. When change plays a role in relationships due to kids, marriage, or maybe a simple domestic partnership, it puts a damper on the pleasurable times. Not necessarily because the relationship itself has dimmed, but along with major changes comes adaptation to the particular situation and in some cases responsibility. All the time that was once invested into one person has somehow been spread among other obligations and that quickly the joy of the honeymoon stages has ended. So, what happens next? Post honeymoon stages are more like the ‘take it or leave it’ stages of the relationship. Reason being is all the layers protecting a person’s inner-core and true-self began to slowly peel before your eyes. In some cases, the relationship may grow due to the comfort of knowing your partner well enough to let down guards. On the other hand, certain things about a person such as habits, attitudes, mental or physical barriers can have you running for the hills. Post honeymoon stages can make or break a relationship, but it is up to a strong, dedicated, and willing couple to face challenges head on and defeat them together.  Maintain the flame with these five effective steps to a successful relationship post honeymoon stages. ü Reminisce Together ü Have a special date night ü Get away to relax ü Slow down to break routine ü Find a new passion together

Recap: Rekindling the Flame: It’s Never Too Late

There are a growing number of relationships, who lose touch of that spark, from the spontaneous nights to the memorable mornings. The excitement of just knowing that person is within arm’s reach at all times. When change plays a role in relationships due to kids, marriage, or maybe a simple domestic partnership, it puts a damper on the pleasurable times. Not necessarily because the relationship itself has dimmed, but along with major changes comes adaptation to the particular situation and in some cases responsibility. All the time that was once invested into one person has somehow been spread among other obligations and that quickly the joy of the honeymoon stages has ended. So, what happens next?

Post honeymoon stages are more like the ‘take it or leave it’ stages of the relationship. Reason being is all the layers protecting a person’s inner-core and true-self began to slowly peel before your eyes. In some cases, the relationship may grow due to the comfort of knowing your partner well enough to let down guards. On the other hand, certain things about a person such as habits, attitudes, mental or physical barriers can have you running for the hills. Post honeymoon stages can make or break a relationship, but it is up to a strong, dedicated, and willing couple to face challenges head on and defeat them together.

 Maintain the flame with these five effective steps to a successful relationship post honeymoon stages.

ü Reminisce Together

ü Have a special date night

ü Get away to relax

ü Slow down to break routine

ü Find a new passion together

Recap: The Memoirs of a man: Love will set him free Often times we look to men to be protectors and the head of our household. We expect them to consume all problems, believing strength to be embodied within them. While men are portraying the utmost powerful being, their inner struggle is hidden and often ignored. It is almost impossible, in this day and time for men to show any signs of emotion. They are branded soft, weak, or their sexuality is in question. In these cases, men build a solid wall protecting their thoughts and feelings; making the passage to their heart and true-self more complicated to reach. There is not an individual on earth who doesn’t want to feel appreciated or loved in some way, so what would make men any different?  Men need the encouragement to find comfort in themselves in order to whole-heartedly love. They need to know how perfectly normal it is to endure a weakness or to experience love. The test lies within us, ladies men who carry too much weight will mentally and physically fall. Women are needed to generate balance, uplift spirits and seal the empty holes men are in dire need of full-filling. And as a result, ultimately love will set him free. Although it may be extremely difficult for men to admit to the want for love and affection; however, the desire lurks somewhere between a man’s pride and the world’s betrayal of a flawed understanding.  “With him is wisdom and strength, he hath counsel and understanding.” Job 12:13

Recap: The Memoirs of a man: Love will set him free

Often times we look to men to be protectors and the head of our household. We expect them to consume all problems, believing strength to be embodied within them. While men are portraying the utmost powerful being, their inner struggle is hidden and often ignored. It is almost impossible, in this day and time for men to show any signs of emotion. They are branded soft, weak, or their sexuality is in question. In these cases, men build a solid wall protecting their thoughts and feelings; making the passage to their heart and true-self more complicated to reach. There is not an individual on earth who doesn’t want to feel appreciated or loved in some way, so what would make men any different?  Men need the encouragement to find comfort in themselves in order to whole-heartedly love. They need to know how perfectly normal it is to endure a weakness or to experience love. The test lies within us, ladies men who carry too much weight will mentally and physically fall. Women are needed to generate balance, uplift spirits and seal the empty holes men are in dire need of full-filling. And as a result, ultimately love will set him free. Although it may be extremely difficult for men to admit to the want for love and affection; however, the desire lurks somewhere between a man’s pride and the world’s betrayal of a flawed understanding.

 “With him is wisdom and strength, he hath counsel and understanding.” Job 12:13

Recap: The Love Cycle: Seeking Love In all the Wrong Places Love is one of the most powerful words that haunt the social world today. The birthplace of desire, affection, and romance; which will more than likely put anyone at risk of heartache. Love is an ordeal that shouldn’t be taken lightly, thus in seeking it, precautions are necessary. All relationships are destined for greatness; however, in order to calculate love into the equation, the formula must be attainable. The problem occurs when an individual is looking for love in too many faces. An unsuccessful relationship after much invested hope brings forth pain and resentment; which scars potential openings for love. Then the domino effect begins. A broken heart seeks the fulfillment for a healing wound. Unknowingly putting love on the back burner for personal satisfaction. This takes the love game to an unrealistic level, and the repetition of botched relationships is to follow. Most often the quote “love don’t love us” is used to describe unproductive relationships, when in reality the desire and want for affection hinders one from being susceptible to true love. Clouded in past sufferings holds no solution to the conquest for love. When all else fails, keep safe these famous love quotes. “Love comes unseen, we only see it go” “Love is infallible; it has no errors, for all errors are the want of love” “Love is a path to the heart that knows its own way”

Recap: The Love Cycle: Seeking Love In all the Wrong Places

Love is one of the most powerful words that haunt the social world today. The birthplace of desire, affection, and romance; which will more than likely put anyone at risk of heartache. Love is an ordeal that shouldn’t be taken lightly, thus in seeking it, precautions are necessary. All relationships are destined for greatness; however, in order to calculate love into the equation, the formula must be attainable. The problem occurs when an individual is looking for love in too many faces. An unsuccessful relationship after much invested hope brings forth pain and resentment; which scars potential openings for love. Then the domino effect begins. A broken heart seeks the fulfillment for a healing wound. Unknowingly putting love on the back burner for personal satisfaction. This takes the love game to an unrealistic level, and the repetition of botched relationships is to follow. Most often the quote “love don’t love us” is used to describe unproductive relationships, when in reality the desire and want for affection hinders one from being susceptible to true love. Clouded in past sufferings holds no solution to the conquest for love. When all else fails, keep safe these famous love quotes.

“Love comes unseen, we only see it go”

“Love is infallible; it has no errors, for all errors are the want of love”

“Love is a path to the heart that knows its own way”

A Little TLC A wise couple once spoke on how to develop and maintain a successful relationship. The first step was letting your mate be who they are; taking time if necessary to take proper care of their own needs first and making the relationship second. They further explained by saying, “Its like asking someone for a ride and they’re out of gas. The outcome will be a disaster.” Timing is everything and nothing worth having is easy. While its so easy to give in to what is perceived, it’s your gut that always knows best. Follow it, but before you do take care of self, then pursue.

A Little TLC

A wise couple once spoke on how to develop and maintain a successful relationship. The first step was letting your mate be who they are; taking time if necessary to take proper care of their own needs first and making the relationship second. They further explained by saying, “Its like asking someone for a ride and they’re out of gas. The outcome will be a disaster.” Timing is everything and nothing worth having is easy. While its so easy to give in to what is perceived, it’s your gut that always knows best. Follow it, but before you do take care of self, then pursue.