The Love Cycle The Love Cycle sheds a light on the struggle to find truth and understanding in love and relationships; from tender romance to doubts, fears, and trust issues. It seeks to illustrate the cycle of love as a revolving door. Lessons of the heart both pleasurable and painful are a part of life’s purpose to build strength and mold character. The Love Cycle expects readers to gain insight and advice to overcome thought-provoking situations; which in due course brings about awareness to this fixation we call love.

The Love Cycle

The Love Cycle sheds a light on the struggle to find truth and understanding in love and relationships; from tender romance to doubts, fears, and trust issues. It seeks to illustrate the cycle of love as a revolving door. Lessons of the heart both pleasurable and painful are a part of life’s purpose to build strength and mold character. The Love Cycle expects readers to gain insight and advice to overcome thought-provoking situations; which in due course brings about awareness to this fixation we call love.

Recap: Opposites Attract: When one completes the other There is no recipe for the journey to finding one’s mate. When that package comes signed, sealed, and delivered, it’s yours. And without any doubt or worry it is embraced with your acceptance; regardless of the contents marinating inside of the box. Although common interests help set a mutual ground for the relationship, there is a catch that ultimately draws an individual in. A successful relationship feeds off of balance and structure, with each individual serving as a compliment to the other. The complication of being with someone the total opposite of you can be overwhelming at times. The difference in cleanliness, opinions, social interaction, and overall habits are the root to many disagreements. But when the smoke clears, for some reason the relationship is still standing. Why? How? Here’s the theory, we are all naturally attracted to someone who is different from our norms due to the excitement and the developing sense of completion. We are drawn to an individual’s strengths that we in some way lack. This natural attraction of our opposites is a subconscious way of forcing us to deal with the weaker aspects of our own nature. Although the relationship can become testy and you find yourself driving your partner up a wall; pleading with them to change their habits, you indirectly love it. Think about it. Compromise would play no role if you lived in a perfect little world with no complaints or criticisms. A healthy relationship endures all and in the end conquers all. We will probably never quite grasp the concept of an opposite attracting or our strong-liking to it. Being the puppets of nature, we act on our instincts with the heart following suit. -“Just because a man and a woman sleep in the same bed doesn’t mean they have the same dreams”

Recap: Opposites Attract: When one completes the other

There is no recipe for the journey to finding one’s mate. When that package comes signed, sealed, and delivered, it’s yours. And without any doubt or worry it is embraced with your acceptance; regardless of the contents marinating inside of the box. Although common interests help set a mutual ground for the relationship, there is a catch that ultimately draws an individual in. A successful relationship feeds off of balance and structure, with each individual serving as a compliment to the other. The complication of being with someone the total opposite of you can be overwhelming at times. The difference in cleanliness, opinions, social interaction, and overall habits are the root to many disagreements. But when the smoke clears, for some reason the relationship is still standing. Why? How?

Here’s the theory, we are all naturally attracted to someone who is different from our norms due to the excitement and the developing sense of completion. We are drawn to an individual’s strengths that we in some way lack. This natural attraction of our opposites is a subconscious way of forcing us to deal with the weaker aspects of our own nature.

Although the relationship can become testy and you find yourself driving your partner up a wall; pleading with them to change their habits, you indirectly love it. Think about it. Compromise would play no role if you lived in a perfect little world with no complaints or criticisms. A healthy relationship endures all and in the end conquers all. We will probably never quite grasp the concept of an opposite attracting or our strong-liking to it. Being the puppets of nature, we act on our instincts with the heart following suit.

-“Just because a man and a woman sleep in the same bed doesn’t mean they have the same dreams”

Recap: The First Date Jitters Envision two individuals sitting at the table enjoying dinner, sharing thoughts about one another, laughing and joking; just having a decent time. Then comes that moment of silence; and before formal invitation awkwardness has decided to pull up a chair and join the party of two. In some cases nerves come into play, the feeling when you try to listen to every word you are saying to make sure it makes sense. This method of conversing can be quite difficult to control when you are face to face with someone of interest. An individual can get so caught up in trying to portray what they ‘are not’ in setting a good impression that they begin to lose sight of ‘who they are’. Worst case scenario, the date can go downhill from there; which in a positive aspect, that’s one down and more to go. First dates can be very tricky; especially if you have been anticipating time with the person due to curiosity, crush, or a simple attraction. And as a result, thoughts start drifting into long-term. There lies the problem. A first date is not the place for drafting Mr. or Mrs. Right. Trust when or if love decides to approach the situation, that seat of awkwardness would cease to exist. In all seriousness, give love and long-term a break. Live in the moment and trust your instincts. “A date is simply an opportunity to spend time with someone new and see if there’s potential for more. A first date is all about possibility, not pressure” -Andrea Syrtash, dating and relationship expert

Recap: The First Date Jitters

Envision two individuals sitting at the table enjoying dinner, sharing thoughts about one another, laughing and joking; just having a decent time. Then comes that moment of silence; and before formal invitation awkwardness has decided to pull up a chair and join the party of two. In some cases nerves come into play, the feeling when you try to listen to every word you are saying to make sure it makes sense. This method of conversing can be quite difficult to control when you are face to face with someone of interest. An individual can get so caught up in trying to portray what they ‘are not’ in setting a good impression that they begin to lose sight of ‘who they are’. Worst case scenario, the date can go downhill from there; which in a positive aspect, that’s one down and more to go.

First dates can be very tricky; especially if you have been anticipating time with the person due to curiosity, crush, or a simple attraction. And as a result, thoughts start drifting into long-term. There lies the problem. A first date is not the place for drafting Mr. or Mrs. Right. Trust when or if love decides to approach the situation, that seat of awkwardness would cease to exist. In all seriousness, give love and long-term a break. Live in the moment and trust your instincts.

“A date is simply an opportunity to spend time with someone new and see if there’s potential for more. A first date is all about possibility, not pressure”

-Andrea Syrtash, dating and relationship expert

Recap: Rekindling the Flame: It’s Never Too Late There are a growing number of relationships, who lose touch of that spark, from the spontaneous nights to the memorable mornings. The excitement of just knowing that person is within arm’s reach at all times. When change plays a role in relationships due to kids, marriage, or maybe a simple domestic partnership, it puts a damper on the pleasurable times. Not necessarily because the relationship itself has dimmed, but along with major changes comes adaptation to the particular situation and in some cases responsibility. All the time that was once invested into one person has somehow been spread among other obligations and that quickly the joy of the honeymoon stages has ended. So, what happens next? Post honeymoon stages are more like the ‘take it or leave it’ stages of the relationship. Reason being is all the layers protecting a person’s inner-core and true-self began to slowly peel before your eyes. In some cases, the relationship may grow due to the comfort of knowing your partner well enough to let down guards. On the other hand, certain things about a person such as habits, attitudes, mental or physical barriers can have you running for the hills. Post honeymoon stages can make or break a relationship, but it is up to a strong, dedicated, and willing couple to face challenges head on and defeat them together.  Maintain the flame with these five effective steps to a successful relationship post honeymoon stages. ü Reminisce Together ü Have a special date night ü Get away to relax ü Slow down to break routine ü Find a new passion together

Recap: Rekindling the Flame: It’s Never Too Late

There are a growing number of relationships, who lose touch of that spark, from the spontaneous nights to the memorable mornings. The excitement of just knowing that person is within arm’s reach at all times. When change plays a role in relationships due to kids, marriage, or maybe a simple domestic partnership, it puts a damper on the pleasurable times. Not necessarily because the relationship itself has dimmed, but along with major changes comes adaptation to the particular situation and in some cases responsibility. All the time that was once invested into one person has somehow been spread among other obligations and that quickly the joy of the honeymoon stages has ended. So, what happens next?

Post honeymoon stages are more like the ‘take it or leave it’ stages of the relationship. Reason being is all the layers protecting a person’s inner-core and true-self began to slowly peel before your eyes. In some cases, the relationship may grow due to the comfort of knowing your partner well enough to let down guards. On the other hand, certain things about a person such as habits, attitudes, mental or physical barriers can have you running for the hills. Post honeymoon stages can make or break a relationship, but it is up to a strong, dedicated, and willing couple to face challenges head on and defeat them together.

 Maintain the flame with these five effective steps to a successful relationship post honeymoon stages.

ü Reminisce Together

ü Have a special date night

ü Get away to relax

ü Slow down to break routine

ü Find a new passion together

Recap: The Memoirs of a man: Love will set him free Often times we look to men to be protectors and the head of our household. We expect them to consume all problems, believing strength to be embodied within them. While men are portraying the utmost powerful being, their inner struggle is hidden and often ignored. It is almost impossible, in this day and time for men to show any signs of emotion. They are branded soft, weak, or their sexuality is in question. In these cases, men build a solid wall protecting their thoughts and feelings; making the passage to their heart and true-self more complicated to reach. There is not an individual on earth who doesn’t want to feel appreciated or loved in some way, so what would make men any different?  Men need the encouragement to find comfort in themselves in order to whole-heartedly love. They need to know how perfectly normal it is to endure a weakness or to experience love. The test lies within us, ladies men who carry too much weight will mentally and physically fall. Women are needed to generate balance, uplift spirits and seal the empty holes men are in dire need of full-filling. And as a result, ultimately love will set him free. Although it may be extremely difficult for men to admit to the want for love and affection; however, the desire lurks somewhere between a man’s pride and the world’s betrayal of a flawed understanding.  “With him is wisdom and strength, he hath counsel and understanding.” Job 12:13

Recap: The Memoirs of a man: Love will set him free

Often times we look to men to be protectors and the head of our household. We expect them to consume all problems, believing strength to be embodied within them. While men are portraying the utmost powerful being, their inner struggle is hidden and often ignored. It is almost impossible, in this day and time for men to show any signs of emotion. They are branded soft, weak, or their sexuality is in question. In these cases, men build a solid wall protecting their thoughts and feelings; making the passage to their heart and true-self more complicated to reach. There is not an individual on earth who doesn’t want to feel appreciated or loved in some way, so what would make men any different?  Men need the encouragement to find comfort in themselves in order to whole-heartedly love. They need to know how perfectly normal it is to endure a weakness or to experience love. The test lies within us, ladies men who carry too much weight will mentally and physically fall. Women are needed to generate balance, uplift spirits and seal the empty holes men are in dire need of full-filling. And as a result, ultimately love will set him free. Although it may be extremely difficult for men to admit to the want for love and affection; however, the desire lurks somewhere between a man’s pride and the world’s betrayal of a flawed understanding.

 “With him is wisdom and strength, he hath counsel and understanding.” Job 12:13

Recap: The Love Cycle: Seeking Love In all the Wrong Places Love is one of the most powerful words that haunt the social world today. The birthplace of desire, affection, and romance; which will more than likely put anyone at risk of heartache. Love is an ordeal that shouldn’t be taken lightly, thus in seeking it, precautions are necessary. All relationships are destined for greatness; however, in order to calculate love into the equation, the formula must be attainable. The problem occurs when an individual is looking for love in too many faces. An unsuccessful relationship after much invested hope brings forth pain and resentment; which scars potential openings for love. Then the domino effect begins. A broken heart seeks the fulfillment for a healing wound. Unknowingly putting love on the back burner for personal satisfaction. This takes the love game to an unrealistic level, and the repetition of botched relationships is to follow. Most often the quote “love don’t love us” is used to describe unproductive relationships, when in reality the desire and want for affection hinders one from being susceptible to true love. Clouded in past sufferings holds no solution to the conquest for love. When all else fails, keep safe these famous love quotes. “Love comes unseen, we only see it go” “Love is infallible; it has no errors, for all errors are the want of love” “Love is a path to the heart that knows its own way”

Recap: The Love Cycle: Seeking Love In all the Wrong Places

Love is one of the most powerful words that haunt the social world today. The birthplace of desire, affection, and romance; which will more than likely put anyone at risk of heartache. Love is an ordeal that shouldn’t be taken lightly, thus in seeking it, precautions are necessary. All relationships are destined for greatness; however, in order to calculate love into the equation, the formula must be attainable. The problem occurs when an individual is looking for love in too many faces. An unsuccessful relationship after much invested hope brings forth pain and resentment; which scars potential openings for love. Then the domino effect begins. A broken heart seeks the fulfillment for a healing wound. Unknowingly putting love on the back burner for personal satisfaction. This takes the love game to an unrealistic level, and the repetition of botched relationships is to follow. Most often the quote “love don’t love us” is used to describe unproductive relationships, when in reality the desire and want for affection hinders one from being susceptible to true love. Clouded in past sufferings holds no solution to the conquest for love. When all else fails, keep safe these famous love quotes.

“Love comes unseen, we only see it go”

“Love is infallible; it has no errors, for all errors are the want of love”

“Love is a path to the heart that knows its own way”

A Little TLC A wise couple once spoke on how to develop and maintain a successful relationship. The first step was letting your mate be who they are; taking time if necessary to take proper care of their own needs first and making the relationship second. They further explained by saying, “Its like asking someone for a ride and they’re out of gas. The outcome will be a disaster.” Timing is everything and nothing worth having is easy. While its so easy to give in to what is perceived, it’s your gut that always knows best. Follow it, but before you do take care of self, then pursue.

A Little TLC

A wise couple once spoke on how to develop and maintain a successful relationship. The first step was letting your mate be who they are; taking time if necessary to take proper care of their own needs first and making the relationship second. They further explained by saying, “Its like asking someone for a ride and they’re out of gas. The outcome will be a disaster.” Timing is everything and nothing worth having is easy. While its so easy to give in to what is perceived, it’s your gut that always knows best. Follow it, but before you do take care of self, then pursue.

“Listen here, this will be done my way.”

 It was the anger in her glare and the tremble in her lips that told it all. She had endured enough never rid of pain as she stumbled across her whole family slaughtered. It was her hands soaked of blood and hopeless treasure that made my heart pour into her. Sitting wondering if every strand of gray had anything to do with her troubled son, her promiscuous daughter, or her parents that went astray when she was just a little girl. Did she go to school and see all of her friends leaving their loved ones with small kisses and harmonious hugs as they dashed in to meet the bell? Pink ribbons upon long pigtails she wore everyday for five years until they pulled and teased her sweet innocence away. She had no mother to groom her, so she did the best she could to fit in.
Was her unfit husband to blame? His cool temper confused my thought of them not getting along and ultimately filing for a divorce. He placed one arm on my shoulder and said,
 “Son when you get my age, you will find the one. You see that lady over there she is not the one.”
I looked over to find poor old Mrs. Margaret watching closely trying to pick apart our conversation. How could he not love and adore his one and only wife. Her sharp responses and aggressive demands to get the job done had me scared out of my wits. Maybe that explained it. I have never gone on a personal mission before. Beth was the love of my life and I thought she was the apple of Margaret’s eye, but boy was I wrong. She wanted her gone. The shame was burning into her family; her legacy was being tarnished. From the late nights, all of the men and all of the lies; she could no longer stand to look at the monster she single-handedly created. What can I say; she was an attractive young woman. Slender shape, voluptuous lips, and lustful sway; I would be lying to say she didn’t have my head turning. My best friend, my only friend would have to be slain and the blood will be on my hands. What will I say to her teenage son who looks up to me as a dad? The truth will burn a hole in my entire existence, but the answer no is out of the question. I know she will hunt me down if I don’t carry out this plan. My family will be in danger and I will be running for the rest of my life. The pained look on my face overshadowed any expression I could ever feel, looking down at my watch and tapping my foot at a slow rhythm, counting down to the second for the meeting to come to an end. I wanted to escape the madness, run from the guilt. The date and time was set and all words spoken will be done. I’m sorry Beth. 
THE HEART SPEAKS.

Make Me Feel…

Like a friend so I can be one. Feed me with compliments, watch my every move

Hold me one second longer and reveal what I think they don’t know

Give me understanding for mine is clouded in you

Save me from the past and become my present

Be my light when my darkness is only one step away

Find my voice, I have somehow muted.

Be mine for without you I am nothing

Fight for me with words while I freeze my actions

Still in the moment, wishing for a tomorrow

In this day I follow

When the eve comes choices become hallow decisions

Stay, go… just go.

I feel…